Gottman's Couples Therapy Flashcards

Statement that implies something is globally wrong with one’s partner.

Used to ward off attack; defensiveness claims innocence.

Seeing oneself as superior to partner; single best predictor of divorce.

When the listener withdraws from interaction, physically or mentally.

Failed repair attempts combined with Four Horsemen predict divorce with 97.5% accuracy.

Non-distressed relationships are characterized by a ratio of 20 positive interactions to one negative one.

Most consistent correlate of marital satisfaction across cultures.

Men unwilling to accept influence from their wives create 80% more likelihood of divorce.

When a woman uses harsh startup, more likely to end in divorce.

Pattern of little conflict with unacknowledged tension.

Overall sense of positive affect and ability to reduce negative affect during conflict.

Cognitive map of partner’s inner psychological world; foundation of Sound Relationship House.

Maintaining positive feelings and respect for partner.

Pattern of responding to partner’s bids for connection; the Emotional Bank Account.

When positive feelings about partner override negative interactions.